if you like someone/thing, should you go a step further and find out more about it?

after all, you have a chance of finding out something about it that make you like it even more... and the joys of getting closer to attaining it would be so much greater. the hope of being able to attain it would be a pushing force, guiding you towards your goal. yet as the appreciation of it increases, so does the despair that comes when you lose it.

yet what you liked about it is based on what you know about it. perhaps knowing certain things about it would make you like it less. knowing such would take away the possibilities of attaining such joy, hope, and sense of direction. then you end up with one less thing that can give you just that bit of joy, based on just that bit you know.

so perhaps we might want things to remain this way. know just enough about something to make you like it. no more. yet sometimes information force itself on us. something isn't as good as it seemed... it probably isn't worth attaining... the joy that one gets from seemingly getting closer, the hope of eventually being able to attain it will all drain away.

so we may refuse to believe information that are critical of the things we like. at least... there is hope... at least... you spend a longer time in bliss... you don't lose anything from refusing to believe what you don't want to believe...

perhaps, an infatuation should just remain as an infatuation. just a fantasy. just something you like, no more, and no less.