double happiness!

I'm really happy for my sister. Both my sister and her now-husband are so amazing! I'm glad that things are moving ahead in their lives. I'm also glad that I can now refer to the amazingly intelligent, considerate and decisive (and lucky) Oliver Wicker as my brother-in-law instead of "just" my sister's boyfriend(which has a somewhat transient feel to it, even though they've been together for so long!). And I can refer to Kitty as "my sister-in-law... sort of" instead of the awkward "my sister's boyfriend's sister" which somehow seems more distant than it feels. During the wedding reception(which was a high tea), I had the chance to sit with and talk to people around 9 years older than me. It's quite remarkable how... "steady" (forgive my diction) they seem! Conversation flows easily and casually even between strangers - they know what questions to ask to simulate a friendly chat, and how to respond in a witty manner. I wonder if it's because they are in the same age group and they have a better idea of what the concerns of people of that age are? Or perhaps making friendly conversation with people they've just met is a universal skill they've acquired over time? That seems like a really useful thing to learn. Sitting at that table I keep feeling that they know a great deal about life that I don't, but they are all pretty cautious about giving advice. For a while after the reception I felt like I was the most immature of the bunch of people at the reception (well maybe excepting the one year olds), and wondered: Do all x year-olds talk like x year-olds? I don't want to be sound young and immature! Is there any way around it? And my mom told me: It can only come with experience, through success, failure, or even suffering, and all that will take time. Of two people of the same age, one can sound like old when talking about one thing, but he'll probably sound younger when talking about another, as the time they have will tend to equalize the amount of experience they have, and no experience has greater intrinsic worth over another, be it success or failure. Oh well, I guess I can only wait then!